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Charactaristics of Equality
 
Charactaristics of Abuse

Partnerships

  1. Joint decision making
  2. Shared responsibility

Emotional Security

  1. Feel safe to share feelings
  2. Honesty and accountability for any wrongdoing
  3. Open and clear communication

Physical Safety

  1. Practices non-violence
  2. Respects partner’s physical space

Sexual Safety

  1. Accepts that “no” means no
  2. If you don’t hear a “yes”, it’s a “no”

Economic Equality

  1. Free to decide issues of school, work, and money

Respect

    • Listen non-judgmentally
    • Respect right to have different friends, activities, feelings and ideas
    • Support and trust
    • Listen and understand
    • Support partner’s goals
    • Value partner’s opinions and ideas

Domination

  1. Abuser decides
  2. Master/servant mentality

Emotional Manipulation

  1. Use jealousy/possessiveness
  2. Switching from charm to anger
  3. Name-calling, putdowns, insults
  4. Uses anger, drugs/alcohol, or childhood to justify actions

Physical Abuse

  1. Pushing, pulling hair, restraining
  2. Throwing objects, destroying personal possessions
  3. Slapping, hitting, kicking, strangling, etc.

Sexual Abuse

  1. Coercion, not accepting “no”
  2. Force partner to have sexual contact against her will

Economic Control

  1. Withholds money
  2. Denies access to money, job and school

Control

  1. Mind games
  2. Isolate partner from friends, loved ones, and activities
  3. Threats, harassment, violation of person space

Intimidation

    • Nice to others but not to you
    • Reckless driving
    • Harming or threatening to harm pets
    • Minimizes abuse

 

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