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Teen Dating
 

d.a.t.e.s.a.f.e.

d ouble/group date
a ssert yourself
t ell plans
e stabilsh boundaries
s tay sober
a ccountability
f ollow your instincts
e mergency plans

Elements of "Safe" Dating

  • D” ouble date or group date
  • A” ssert yourself, verbally and non-verbally
  • T” ell your parent(s) or other trusted adult (“safe person”) where you’re going, who you’ll be with, what you will be doing, etc. Notify your “safe person” of any changes in plans (different location, different friends, etc.)
  • E” stablish boundaries - express yourself, communicate—tell your date up front what your expectations, limits and boundaries are
  • S” tay sober
  • A” ccountability, for yourself and friends.  Use the “buddy system”
  • F” ollow your instincts.  Pay attention your to “gut feelings” and that “little voice”
  • E” mergency plans – Have emergency cash on hand and change for a pay phone; take a cell phone; have a password or phrase known only to you and your “safe person”
  • Stay in public places.
  • Drive yourself or meet your date there.
  • Get your own beverage and don’t let it out of your possession.
  • Agree before hand to split the bill.
  • You pay and tell your date s/he can pay next time.
  • Have (or be) a designated driver.
 

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Resources

   
National Hotlines
   
National Youth Crisis Hotline
1-800-448-4663 (24 Hours)
   
   
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (24 Hours)
    TTY (Translators Available) 1-800-787-3224
   
   
RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network)
1-800-656-HOPE
   
Crisis Lines
   
Portland Women's Crisis Line
1-888-235-5333
   
   
Center Against Rape & Domestic Violence
1-800-927-0197
   
Wallowa County
   
Safe Harbors Domestic & Sexual Violence Service Program
(541) 426-6565 (24 Hour)
(541) 426-4004 (Office)
   
   
Wallowa Valley Center for Wellness
(541) 426-4524
   
   
Wallowa County Sheriff’s Office
(541) 426-3131
(Office-24 Hours)
   
Websites
     
   
   
   
     
   
Books
   
In Love and In Danger (A Teen’s Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships) by Barrie Levy
   
Protecting the Gift:  Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (And Parents Sane) by Gavin de Becker
   
Heartbreak and Roses:  Real-life Stories of Troubled Love by Janet Bode

 

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